LIVE WITHOUT EXPECTATIONS

This means you have to get to a point in life when you really do not expect others to react or behave in a certain way. You can only control how you react or behave. You cannot control how others react or behave. What often makes life difficult is when we expect others to jump for joy or be happy and they are not. If we expect them to take us to dinner or buy us something and they don't - this leads to our disappointment. When we expect someone to do something and they don't, we have set ourselves up for disappointment.
There is another aspect to expectations. If you expect something to happen and it does, you will be bored.
Living without expectations is also accepting others as they are. You might as well, as they are not likely to change unless they want too. This does not mean that we cannot honestly tell others how we feel and even what we don't like about them and hope they change.
You can live without expectations and still hope, desire, love, want and have all the normal feelings. But it is in the expectations that we have that set ourselves up for disappointment.
Living without expectations does not mean we must live without hope. We can hope others will change, we just cannot expect that they be the way we want them to be. It is confusing to love someone and not get the same jibes back. Or should I say, it is confusing to love someone and expect the same jibes back.

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